I am a Communication Guidance Healer. I graduated in 2007 with a Communication Degree, a Liberal Arts Degree, and a Communication Studies Certificate and with honors. I have facilitated Positive Parenting Classes, Domestic Violence Support, and have volunteered hundreds of hours at my child's schools over the years, as well as have helped bring hundreds, maybe thousands of people guidance and healing to their minds, bodies and souls through Spirit- all of my life.
Plus I've also graduated from the school of hard knocks - and with honors lol jk.
I have been on a spiritual journey most of my adult life to heal my mind, body, and soul .
And in that journey I've learned that one of my gifts is that I am an Empath.
You ask what is an empath?
Have your friends or family ever told you that you are really sensitive? Do you feel like or actually cry when you watch American Idol? Do you have unexplained pain in your body? Can you feel other people's pain? Do you always feel the desire to or offer to help? Do you have a feeling when something bad is going to happen? Do you have anxiety?
If you answered yes to any of these you too may be an Empath.
Empaths care and worry about everyone and are so very compassionate and are very sensitive. Sometimes an Empath is more worried about others and how they feel before they are worried about themselves.
They will give, give, help, care and then at the end of the day they are exhausted. The will think and feel. .. "I helped, cared and why do I feel like I didn't get the end result I hoped for?" They don't feel good. They may feel drained physically or emotionally. They help people and then it doesn't turn out. Especially true when you're in a love relationship with someone that doesn't possess this super power.
If any of this makes sense then you may be an Empath- I encourage you to continue to read and also read my other blogs on empaths.
Another example of living in an empathic body is when you watch TV or a movie are you extremely sensitive to the people on the screen? I mean, I can't watch shows when someone gets hurt, because I actually feel their pain in my body.
The show that is on in my house a lot is Ridiculousness. A lot of people laugh and think it's funny, but when someone falls or gets hurt, it's really not funny to an Empath....I see that and I actually feel that person's pain in my body and I feel a sensation in my body. For me, I feel it in my legs or knees. It's very difficult for me to watch a person experience pain. Very uncomfortable and gets me agitated. We have a family rule to change the channel when I'm around. I don't watch those shows.
And for me- I also feel the pain and a sensation through my body if someone talks about getting hurt or explains how someone they know broke their leg, I don't only hear what they are saying I relate with that person's pain and feel it in my body- literally and can empathize with that person on a higher level.
I always joke around and say that being an Empath makes me the amazing Healer that I am because I'm sensitive to your energy, your needs, and your pains, but it's NOT so amazing at the mall! During my high school and younger adult years I never wanted to go to the mall. It just wasn't a fun thing to do, even today, I honestly dread the mall, it just isn't something I want to do during my free time. My child had never been to the mall until he was 6 or 7 years old because I hate shopping. I will go in, go straight to the store I need, purchase and leave!
I knew I didn't like shopping at the mall, but I was never able to actually articulate this. After years of learning my body I am now able to put it into words from an emotion and feeling. I'm overstimulated when I go to places where there are a lot of people, energy or Spirit.
As an Empath it's been my journey to pay attention to things around me and listen to my body and honor and respect my body.
When someone is mean or rude to me, it is my job to choose to not be in contact with that person. I will drive ten miles to a store to deal with that nice customer service orientated bank teller that doesn't negatively affect my energy. I mean let's face it- our surroundings have an effect on us. Feng Shui originates from the Chinese and is the East, West, North, or South positioning of your home, front door, and furniture. It is proof that our surrounding have a huge effect on us, and more importantly people in our lives actually have a bigger affect on us.
If I deal with a person at the bank near my home and they are not really warm, helpful or friendly... I may leave there feeling bla! Or even irritated, but then one day I stopped at another bank farther from my home, and they are nice and they put a smile on my face, and also on my heart, trust me- I will drive to the farther bank, because I want to feel that comfort and ease with interaction with others, which makes me feel good. Meaning didn't affect my mood in a negative way.
Another sign that you may be an Empath is that you hate texting. Because they rely on feeling as their primary sense to feel and that's pretty close to impossible when you text.
It can be an horrible experience for an Empath. In talking to my very good friend Lindsay, she gets irritated with her friends because she says that when she reads their text messages she can't get a feeling and always wonders if that the person is mad at her. She reads the text as if they are mad.
I understand texting is quick and easy for some things like "Pick up some milk" or "I'm ready", but now a days people use texting as a way of communicating.
A perfect example is when someone meets a person on an online dating site, they want to email and text back and forth, but in this circumstance texting isn't good, because there isn't any emotion behind a text. You can't read them or their energy or hear them or feel them. An Empath wants to talk so that they can feel and through texting there isn't any emotion to feel so it can be very confusing to the mind and emotions.
Another example of an Empath is they always feel other people's pain and want it to stop. So they will do everything they can do to help so that the pain will stop.
When someone hurts an Empath the pain is exacerbated. It becomes excruciating beyond belief. It is horrible!! And very difficult to get through or release the imprint it makes.
This is why all body work, energy healing, acupuncture, meditation, massage, physical therapy and love is so important to heal your body.
I am not going to claim I have this down. .. but I will tell you this, I consciously make an effort to be aware of the people I surround myself with and pay attention to those that have an effect on me and trust me people will have an effect and refrain from those how jeopardize my happiness or peace. I try to turn off that empath, empathy trigger, sense or sensor and only open up or help when I am asked. The person says Peej can you. .. and they ask which translates to they have come to a conclusion that they want help and most importantly they realize they NEED help and ASK for it!
If you only get one thing out of this blog, I pick that this piece of advice sink into your mind, body and soul.
The Merriam-Webster online definition states empathic involving, characterized by, or based on empathy
and the Related Words:
feeling, perceptive, sensitive; considerate, gentle,softhearted, tender, tenderhearted, warm, warmhearted;benevolent, benignant, bighearted, charitable, kind,kindhearted, kindly, largehearted, magnanimous;clement, lenient, merciful, tolerant; pitying, ruthful;congenial, cordial, friendly, genial, good-natured, good-tempered, gracious, well-disposed; affectionate, loving
And Near Antonyms:
inconsiderate, insensitive, thoughtless, unthinking; aloof,cool, indifferent, uncaring, uninterested; unaffectionate,unfriendly, unloving; merciless, pitiless, ruthless; bigoted,blinkered, narrow-minded, small-minded; brutal, grim,hard-bitten, hard-boiled, harsh, oppressive, rough,severe, stern, tough, ungentle, unrelenting; abusive,acrimonious, disagreeable, hateful, hostile, ill-natured, ill-tempered, malevolent, malicious, mean, rancorous,spiteful, surly, unkind, virulent
I encourage you to learn about your mind, body and soul. You could read my other blogs on Empaths and I encourage you to watch my YouTube videos and please feel free to contact me at www.peej.me for guidance.
Thank you and I'm sending you superpower love and light. Peej xoxo