Today was my late day I was supposed to be able to sleep one hour longer, but this didn't happen because my grandmother decided to wake me up with chitter chatter in my ear about things that need to be done, changes that need to be made, how to do them and when.    It's all kinds of good information but to early in the morning though!  When she was alive I remember she would love to wake me up.  I would drive to Sacramento to visit her on my days off and I wanted to sleep in. I mean why couldn't I do the two birds with one stone and visit her on my day off and sleep in?  But no she had different idea for me.  She was an early bird so she'd be in the kitchen slamming cupboards and making all kinds of noise.  I knew it was intentional to wake me up I used to lay there and feel so irritated and one time I was almost in tears, so one time I said something to her, and when I speak of this now, I want to laugh, because she would never hesitate to do what she wanted or thought was right.   My grandparents were one of a kind.  She would push her way to the front and my Grandfather would say whatever was on his mind, he didn't care if he hurt your feelings or what other's thought.  He was what some would consider rude because he was very out spoken, stubborn and would get aggressive at times.  But my Grandmother was just a little pushy.  She would always tell me he that my grumpy Grandfather liked me and I knew he didn't.  He was mean.  He was a horse in the Chinese astrology and I'm a monkey, is what my cousin says...now it all makes sense to me why he didn't take a liking to me.  It's a Chinese Astrology thing!  Lol
Anyways back to my Grandmother she is a very funny woman she'd wake me up when I would visit her by making noise and slamming things and she would always say when I visited that I'd have plenty of time to sleep when I was dead.  That was her philosophy, and now she is showing me from the other side so she decided to wake me up early and she does that quite often and we had to have a little talk this morning so I'm hoping that doesn't happen anymore, but she does give me some good advice and ideas where to make some changes. And she let me know she loves me and guides me and that it's pretty amazing that I can hear see and feel Loved Ones that have crossed over to the other side. 
I am very thankful to have a direct connection to Spirit, and my Guides especially thankful that my grandmother has chose me, to be one of my amazing spiritual Guide and connections. 
I was feeling irritated, but I chose to feel blessed and thankful. 
Do you have a connection to Spirit?  
Do you ever wake up and just have no idea why?   Prior to my Spiritual Path or awareness I moved nine times in ten years.  I always thought it was the loud neighbors or the dog barking or the busy noisey....  It was Spirit!
You may hear Spirit and not understand.  Maybe you're a Medium too!

It's April 11 and this blog was composed March 3, 2014 at 3:45 am and according to my spirit guides it is time to blog and share what an a Empath is....

An Empath feels the emotions of others, and has an affect on them, their emotions and energy. 
A person that is not an Empath has control over the emotional effect and doesn't allow themselves to feel the other persons energy, issues or emotions and sure doesn't feel their pain in their body, and can choose to take into consideration the other persons emotions or pains. They stay in their own bodies. They feel what they feel in their mind, body and soul, but let it go with ease. Where an Empath vibrates outside their body and has the gift (or is it a curse haha) of feeling other's emotions or pains because they usually observe and not absorb, where an Empath absorbs when they really should be observing and not absorbing! This can be very difficult especially if you don't know your body or understand what an Empath is. 
I always say being an Empath makes me the amazing Reader and Healer that I am in my office- but not so amazing at the mall. It's actually over stimulating for me to be at the mall. I actually hate going to the mall. I avoid it if I can. It's funny how you realize things as you get older and learn your body. As a teenager I never wanted to go to the mall. I just didn't like it, but all of my friends frequented the mall often. Now I know why!

A few things I've learned and would like to share...
As an empath it is our job to choose who we surround ourselves with, who we spend our free time with, and who we choose to call friends. 
Just because we have known someone forever or an even harder one is- the people we are related to- Just because we are related to someone doesn't mean we have to spend our free time with them if they aren't making us feel good or happy. Check- If after you're with someone you feel drained, stressed, irritated, annoyed, down or worried about them, you may want to consider shortening your time with that person. 
I'm going to share with you that this has been a hard one for me all of my life. I have had a lot of not so loving, not so caring or helpful family members in my life. But I wouldn't change my past if I could, because it has made me the caring loving sportive strong woman, mother, friend and person that I am today. I treat people the way I want to be treated with love, compassion, empathy and light.

And because I am not selfish
I am a very caring helpful giving person and this my friends has sometimes got me into situations that have caused me some major grief. I mean be a supportive person bring a friend happiness, guidance and pleasure and then in turn if it causes you disappointments, let down and any feelings of regret them that's your body talking to you.
Example that comes forward and I can go back many many years ago before I had a child I used to babysit for friends so that they could go out and go on vacation and have fun or go back to work after having a child. Which was great, right?
They got to go out on the town, go on vacation, cruises, limos or simply go back to work and I got to help, be supportive, love their children, and do things like go to Chuck E Cheese or do art work or just hang out and spend quality time with their children. I love kids so babysitting was always fun for me and still is to this day! 
As an Empath they never really had to ask me because I would offer the second I knew they needed something. Which for them was great-right? But for me.... Not so great! One friend actually had the nerve to say to me, "I didn't ask you-you offered!" As if... ugh! That was the official smack in the face wake up call. .. Because it wasn't a favor if I offered right?

Then I had a child. Most of these people I referred to as friends, that I babysat for frustrated me time and time again, because they weren't so willing to reciprocate the favors. They were married, busy, or just not around anymore. This showed up multiple times throughout my life when I needed a babysitter these friends were not as readily open helpful or even appreciative or wanted to help with babysitting favors with my child as I was with theirs.

It really hurt me and was really hard to understand.

Another example is much later on in life once I graduated from college and actually started working and doing readings I used to read my friends for free all of the time and that had its own set of issues. My definition of a friend is one that is there for your friends through thick and thin. I'd listen to them complain or vent, they'd listen to me vent and complain like we all do but once I started doing readings I would read them for free and provide guidance, messages from their loved ones, or predictions and then everytime they had a dilemma they would call me and I was expected to provide free readings and support like I always did. Because I would just openly offer advice or read them and friends for free in the past. It started to be expected, and this became a drain eventually I had to make changes. 
I mean let's say if I were a nail lady would I be expected to do all of my friends nails for free? No! But because I'm not holding any tools or scissors I don't think they really looked at it as a job or service because I'm just talking right? . . One time probably in 2010 I had an issue where a friend of mine scheduled an appointment to do a (free) reading with me and when I wasn't able to be there right at the time she scheduled she got really nasty with me and that's when I realized something was wrong. It showed me to see that I wasn't having good boundaries. So now I try really hard and I don't read friends for free. They have to pay something. I funny care I if it's $20. Or dinner!

I always prayed that God will help me to have better spiritual boundaries. This has been a huge life lesson that has showed up multiple times over the years and just when I think I have it down someone or something shows up to tests me once again!

Bottom line is Empaths need to surround themselves with like minded people. 
We can't help the world, well I guess we could try, but it would be exhausting. When you feel for someone or you feel another's pain, needs, or emotions and it overwelmed you, consumes your thoughts, or you feel their pain and you worry, that means you may be an Empath. This can be a difficult one for you as it was and is for me, because not everyone feels the emotion of others, plus it's a dog eat dog world. Or is it doggy doggy world? They both get to my point! Not everyone is out to help or even care to help others. Not everyone has that gift of feeling another person's emotions, caring for that person, providing service, offering or volunteering to help or connectors to that feeling that person's needs wants and desires its called an Empath.
It's our job to surround ourselves with like minded people if you pay attention to the qualities of life that those people choose it becomes quite easy to pick out who is and who is not a like-minded person. This like - minded person would have a mindset of what can I do for you in our relationship to help, not what can you do for me in this relationship, being a give-and-take type of relationship. It becomes kind of tricky when you have family or friends that you may known for 25 years but the good news is the more spiritual you become, the closer you get to God or the more you become more in touch with your higher self the harder it is to deal with letting them go, but the easier it is to detect these like-minded people. Because it'll be familiar when you leave these people you'll feel fulfilled you'll feel no drain, no negative emotion, no confusion and most important no shift in your energy. You may feel happy after you interact with them. It's important to checkin how you feel after you're with each and every person you come in contact with. You want to be okay with yourself when you leave and have positive emotions going through your veins maybe feel like you got help and maybe you help them too. Another important thing is not absorbing their pain and most importantly not offering help when they haven't asked for it. 
We have free will and that means we can choose who we surround ourselves with and who we choose to help. Free will to let things go and move on or try to hold on and not suffer because your fighting for what you believe in, all the while hoping that the person will see the light. Just because you realize they need help doesn't mean you fix it, help fix it, or offer to fix it. 
Just accept that people are people and just because we see and know they could make better choices doesn't mean they are ready to see that or accept it. I'm setting it free is something I say often. And really I'm allowing myself to be free to accept what is, when if I don't agree with what it is. 
Another thing that I say is observe but not absorb.
Which brings me to my favorite quote I heard in college, which is on my business card... "The key to happiness is accepting what is." 
This is what it is. So be it!

I'm sending love and light 

This was originally composed on Jan 12, 2014

What is a booking fee? And why?  

A booking fee is a charge for doing an in-office session.  It's cheaper to do a Skype or phone session because you don't pay a booking fee.  And I don't have to pay for office space because I'm working from the comfort of my home while you are in the comfort of yours.  I always say if money is an issue then book a Skype or phone session.  Your session results will be as accurate and clear as an in person session.  I always joke around and say the only difference is you don't get a real hug, you get an electronic hug. LOL  :)

A little history of why I require a booking fee when scheduling an office session with me?

I've been meeting with clients for a very long time and never had an issue but one Saturday morning long ago...I decided to start charging a booking fee because this lady booked an office session with me on a Saturday morning at 9 a.m. and didn't show up.  I didn't get a call or email to cancel.  She didn't answer her cell phone the three times I attempted to call as I waited on her arrival.  I sat there wondering if she was okay or just decided to sleep in on her Saturday morning like I could have been doing!
It was a very disappointing and frustrating day for me that Saturday morning many months ago.  I mean at that time I was trying to do 2 businesses and I'm a single only parent with health problems with challenges daily.  I work very hard, my child has sports five days a week, sometimes six so for me to crawl out of bed at 730 in the morning on a Saturday morning to take a shower and get myself into the office by nine, I know now is and was asking a lot from my tired disabled self.  Then for her to not even have the common courtesy to call or email or even answer her phone when I called her was just blatantly rude!  As I sat in my office, eyes closed, talking to Spirit asking why... I heard my Angels chime in and say, things happen for a reason...
And that's when the messsage came to me to require a small booking fee to schedule an office session. 
In the.. I don't know, maybe year that I've now been doing this I've had two people schedule a session and no-show.  I know it makes a big difference now when someone doesn't show to their appointment at least I get paid something for the trip into the office.  It's also a little compensation for the fact that another person could have scheduled a session during that time slot, so at least it accommodates my time slightly.

So today I have somebody booked at 2:15 that scheduled her second session with me a couple weeks ago and I called her 3 days ago to confirm because my spidey senses said call her plus I didn't collect a booking fee.  I left her a message but I never heard back from her, and to be honest with all the dealings with my grandmother's funeral yesterday and the viewing the day before and all the preparations and family drama going on around me it never occurred to me that I didn't hear back from her. I do remember her she was a very very nice lady with relationship issues with a motorcycle gang boyfriend. 
So this morning when I realized I never heard back from her I attempted to try to call her again and again left a message, because I have two other people that are trying to get in today and I don't have the time available.  If she isn't coming in I could give that time slot to someone else.
She didn't answer.  I still went to my office because you never know maybe her phone was lost, broken or. .. AND....the result....she didn't show and to this day (March 26, 2014) I have not heard from her.
Given her situation it makes me wonder if she's okay or not?!

These are a few reasons why I charge a booking fee.  And I notice that people are more responsible when they have a few bucks on the line.  If they're not going to show up then they make sure they cancel or reschedule which allows me to give that time slot to somebody else.  After all I am running a business here. ;)

Hi my name is Peej and I have been blessed with many gifts and what one of my best friend says I have super powers. 
I am a Communication Guidance Healer.  I graduated in 2007 with a Communication Degree, a Liberal Arts Degree, and a Communication Studies Certificate and with honors.  I have facilitated Positive Parenting Classes, Domestic Violence Support, and have volunteered hundreds of hours at my child's schools over the years, as well as have helped bring hundreds, maybe thousands of people guidance and healing to their minds, bodies and souls through Spirit- all of my life.
Plus I've also graduated from the school of hard knocks - and with honors lol jk.

I have been on a spiritual journey most of my adult life to heal my mind, body, and soul .
And in that journey I've learned that one of my gifts is that I am an Empath.
You ask what is an empath?

Have your friends or family ever told you that you are really sensitive?  Do you feel like or actually cry when you watch American Idol? Do you have unexplained pain in your body? Can you feel other people's pain?  Do you always feel the desire to or offer to help?  Do you have a feeling when something bad is going to happen?  Do you have anxiety?
If you answered yes to any of these you too may be an Empath.
Empaths care and worry about everyone and are so very compassionate and are very sensitive.  Sometimes an Empath is more worried about others and how they feel before they are worried about themselves. 
They will give, give, help, care and then at the end of the day they are exhausted.  The will think and feel. .. "I helped, cared and why do I feel like I didn't get the end result I hoped for?" They don't feel good. They may feel drained physically or emotionally.   They help people and then it doesn't turn out.  Especially true when you're in a love relationship with someone that doesn't possess this super power.  
If any of this makes sense then you may be an Empath- I encourage you to continue to read and also read my other blogs on empaths.

Another example of living in an empathic body is when you watch TV or a movie are you extremely sensitive to the people on the screen?   I mean, I can't watch shows when someone gets hurt, because I actually feel their pain in my body. 
The show that is on in my house a lot is Ridiculousness.  A lot of people laugh and think it's funny, but when someone falls or gets hurt, it's really not funny to an Empath....I see that and I actually feel that person's pain in my body and I feel a sensation in my body.  For me, I feel it in my legs or knees.  It's very difficult for me to watch a person experience pain. Very uncomfortable and gets me agitated. We have a family rule to change the channel when I'm around.  I don't watch those shows. 
And for me- I also feel the pain and a sensation through my body if someone talks about getting hurt or explains how someone they know broke their leg, I don't only hear what they are saying I relate with that person's pain and feel it in my body- literally and can empathize with that person on a higher level.

I always joke around and say that being an Empath makes me the amazing Healer  that I am because I'm sensitive to your energy, your needs, and your pains, but it's NOT so amazing at the mall!  During my high school and younger adult years I never wanted to go to the mall.  It just wasn't a fun thing to do, even today, I honestly dread the mall, it just isn't something I want to do during my free time.  My child had never been to the mall until he was 6 or 7 years old because I hate shopping.  I will go in, go straight to the store I need, purchase and leave! 
I knew I didn't like shopping at the mall, but I was never able to actually articulate this.  After years of learning my body I am now able to put it into words from an emotion and feeling.  I'm overstimulated when I go to places where there are a lot of people, energy or Spirit.

As an Empath it's been my journey to pay attention to things around me and listen to my body and honor and respect my body. 
When someone is mean or rude to me, it is my job to choose to not be in contact with that person.  I will drive ten miles to a store to deal with that nice customer service orientated bank teller that doesn't negatively affect my energy.  I mean let's face it- our surroundings have an effect on us.  Feng Shui originates from the Chinese and is the East, West, North, or South positioning of your home, front door, and furniture.  It is proof that our surrounding have a huge effect on us, and more importantly people in our lives actually have a bigger affect on us.

If I deal with a person at the bank near my home and they are not really warm, helpful or friendly... I may leave there feeling bla! Or even irritated, but then one day I stopped at another bank farther from my home, and they are nice and they put a smile on my face, and also on my heart, trust me- I will drive to the farther bank, because I want to feel that comfort and ease with interaction with others, which makes me feel good.  Meaning didn't affect my mood in a negative way.

Another sign that you may be an Empath is that you hate texting.  Because they rely on feeling as their primary sense to feel and that's pretty close to impossible when you text. 
It can be an horrible experience for an Empath. In talking to my very good friend Lindsay, she gets irritated with her friends because she says that when she reads their text messages she can't get a feeling and always wonders if that the person is mad at her. She reads the text as if they are mad.
I understand texting is quick and easy for some things like "Pick up some milk" or "I'm ready", but now a days people use texting as a way of communicating. 
A perfect example is when someone meets a person on an online dating site, they want to email and text back and forth, but in this circumstance texting isn't good, because there isn't any emotion behind a text.  You can't read them or their energy or hear them or feel them. An Empath wants to talk so that they can feel and through texting there isn't any emotion to feel so it can be very confusing to the mind and emotions.

Another example of an Empath is they always feel other people's pain and want it to stop.  So they will do everything they can do to help so that the pain will stop.  

When someone hurts an Empath the pain is exacerbated.  It becomes excruciating beyond belief.  It is horrible!!  And very difficult to get through or release the imprint it makes.
This is why all body work, energy healing, acupuncture, meditation, massage, physical therapy and love is so important to heal your body.

I am not going to claim I have this down. .. but I will tell you this, I consciously make an effort to be aware of the people I surround myself with and pay attention to those that have an effect on me and trust me people will have an effect and refrain from those how jeopardize my happiness or peace.  I try to turn off that empath, empathy trigger, sense or sensor and only open up or help when I am asked.  The person says Peej can you. .. and they ask which translates to they have come to a conclusion that they want help and most importantly they realize they NEED help and ASK for it! 
If you only get one thing out of this blog, I pick that this piece of advice sink into your mind, body and soul.

The Merriam-Webster online definition states empathic involving, characterized by, or based on empathy
and the Related Words:
feeling, perceptive, sensitive; considerate, gentle,softhearted, tender, tenderhearted, warm, warmhearted;benevolent, benignant, bighearted, charitable, kind,kindhearted, kindly, largehearted, magnanimous;clement, lenient, merciful, tolerant; pitying, ruthful;congenial, cordial, friendly, genial, good-natured, good-tempered, gracious, well-disposed; affectionate, loving

And Near Antonyms:  
inconsiderate, insensitive, thoughtless, unthinking; aloof,cool, indifferent, uncaring, uninterested; unaffectionate,unfriendly, unloving; merciless, pitiless, ruthless; bigoted,blinkered, narrow-minded, small-minded; brutal, grim,hard-bitten, hard-boiled, harsh, oppressive, rough,severe, stern, tough, ungentle, unrelenting; abusive,acrimonious, disagreeable, hateful, hostile, ill-natured, ill-tempered, malevolent, malicious, mean, rancorous,spiteful, surly, unkind, virulent

I encourage you to learn about your mind, body and soul.  You could read my other blogs on Empaths and I encourage you to watch my YouTube videos and please feel free to contact me at www.peej.me for guidance.
Thank you and I'm sending you superpower love and light.  Peej xoxo
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January 24, 2014 
I want to make sure people understand that I take my Spiritual Gift very serious.  Someone came into my office for a session a week or so ago.  I did my normal routine energy healing on her, channels the messages that came forward, gave guidance and then asked her if she had any questions at the end, like I normally do. Normally a person doesn't have questions, but she did.  She asked if I you could communnicate with her family that have passed?  I said yes.....
This is just an example of what I recall she did (NOT what she did exactly, because I channel I don't recall a lot of what is said in my sessions percisely)  but so you get an idea I'm going to give you an example closest to what I recall transpired in my office that day.  It really made me feel uncomfortable and abused spiritually.  Apparently she thought "Spiritual Healer Medium Peej" was a VIDEO GAME and you just put a quarters in and connect with a loved one that has passed to spit out a message or two, and then you just put in another quarter and see what another loved one has to say and yet another quarter in- to see what another dead realiative has to say.  
I'm not sure how other people connect, but for me if the loved one that has passed has messages they will make themselves known and present right when the clients enters my office, and they will talk and give messages before I can start my normal routine of energy healing work, sometimes resulting in me doing energy healing at the end or not doing it at all. 
If a client wants to dial up a loved one at the end then the client says I wanted to connect to my mom then most times I can hear, see or feel them. but other times I ask them to please say their name and for me- its like dialing up the spirit of that loved one then I can either see them and explain what they look like or I can feel them in my body, where I take on their energy and I can explain where they had pain or health issues.  I always hear them in combination to either seeing or feeling them.

So here's an example of what I recall and close to what took place a week or so ago: I did everything I normally do and once I was done I remember I asked her if she had any questions.  She said she wanted to connect with her grandma Sue... So immediately I explained that I felt something very painful in my stomach asked if this made sense to her, she confirmed that her grandmother had passed of stomach cancer- k -k-  Then I say she is showing me a truck- she confirms- yes she drove a truck....  This is the way Spirit of a loved one that has passed will make themselves present by giving me information only you know.   
Then she puts another quarter in (figurativly speaking) and says what about my uncle Joe immediatly I feel major pain in my head and mostly on the left side.  I ask her does this make sense to you or mean something?  She confirmed that yes it did because he had head trama on the left side from a motorcycle accident.  Then she says what about my cousin Bobby Joe does he have anything to say to me?... 

So after her fourth dial up- I said I can't  connect to see if and what they have to say to you.  I feel like I should have said this isn't a video game or I'm not a video game. But it wasn't until after she left that it bothered me.
Honestly I felt like I had been drug through the energy mud and spiritually exhausted because I take on loved ones and their energy, feelings and emotions it can be a lot of energy expelled for me and exhausting.  Plus I felt taken advantage of and used and abused spiritually which extremely affected me negatively which then irritated me, after her session.

SO HERE I AM BLOGGING about this.  My gift to communicate with a loved one is to be respected and taken very serious.  This is not a game, or joke and is NOT to be used to see or prove to you that Peej is really connected spiritually.  My connection to the After-Life is sacred!  I have helped many people bring healing to their mind, body and soul with the gift of being able to connect with a loved one that has passed.  Your Loved One will show me, tell me or give me feelings through vibrations that make sense to you, NOT ME, to confirm they are present, around us to help guide, solve, or clear up things and they bring forward information they want to share with you to guide you towards healing and closure.  

I am the channel and deliverer of messages NOT a video game to just randomly see what they have to say to you or to just experiment with connecting with your loved ones because you're curious and bored.  So please respect my connection.  If you want to connect with a loved one to get closure, healing which confirms that they are around and to experience the gift that there is life after death then schedule a session and they will channel information only makes sense to you, through me to you.  And most times they will help me hear, feel or see where you need healing, inspiration and guidance in your life and sometimes without stepping forward and making themselves appear to my vision or movie screen, is what I call it.  Sometimes I can only hear them or feel them in my body. 

Last year a lady came into my office do a Mediumship session with a guy.  I did my normal routine and said please close your eyes, relax and open yourselves up to the healing you are about to recieve.  I did their chakra alignments and received messages like I knew the guy wasn't her boyfriend and was just here for moral support and they confirmed my feelings were right as well as I felt he never had a reading before he felt to me a little skeptical, which is fine and a normal emotion.  So after I did the energy healing I had this desire to hold my neck.  I had both hand on my neck, holding the front of my neck and I say to both of them- can you please open your eyes.   I said I feel like I want to hold my neck, does this mean something to either of you?  She said yes, he hung himself.  It was a very shoking but intense moment in that office and the look on her guy friends face was what I'd refer to as a Kodak moment.  She became very emotional and at that moment he knew I was the real deal and I felt his skeptical block come down and I was able to channel the messages, providing guidance from both of them from their loved one and Angels. 
They had an amazing session.
That day I left my office really in just amazement with Spirit once again!

I know I have many gifts and help a lot of people and there are those times I just go through the motions, but there are times I leave my office just amazed.  I am grateful and always thank God that I could hear that, or know that, or see the things I do and provide guidance, healing and messages from loved ones. 
Thank you God's Angels, the Holy Spirit & Jesus.  Thank you for reading my blogs I hope they help.  

I am sending you blessings & love,
Peej

 

Did you know that your kid/s are Psychic?  Yes they are!  They have very good senses for what is good or bad feeling and their filters aren't there yet.  So they will blurt out what they feel, which I think is pretty funny sometimes!  
They are especially tuned into what is not so good for the people they care most about- YOU their parent and they WILL tell you how they feel.  
If you are in a relationship and your Psychic kid/s don't like your partner, you should listen to them, because there's a reason why their spidey senses are telling them something negative.
Kids are very intuitive, which is another word for Psychic.  They are completely clear and they most likely have a reason why they don't like that person so if you're in a relationship and you don't know if it's the perfect one or if he or she is the right one or the one that you should be in and your intuition is getting mixed up and conflicts with your emotions.  
A good way to get direction is consider how your friends or Psychic kids feel about that person you're in relationship with.  (Which also means friendship relationship)  Because if they don't like the person you're involved in a relationship with, then maybe you need to start listening to your gut feeling because if they're reading that that person is not good for you nine and a half times out of 10 you know that person is not good for you.  That does NOT mean that they aren't a good person, it just means that they are not a good person for you.  There's a reason why you're holding on to that person and I don't know what the reason is, but sometimes we don't know what the reason is. Maybe it's that you aren't good with change.
Maybe this is a personal issue you need to look at.  Why doesn't my Psychic kid like this person that I'm in a relationship.  You can look at yourself in the mirror and say why am I in this relationship?  What is this person doing for me?  What does this person bring into my life? Are they adding to the quality of my life or subtracting from it?  Are they teaching me to listen to my own intuition? and an example of that would be.. are they teaching me to know when someone's lying are they saying that they're faithful and I know that they're not.  Are they saying that they are at a friends house and your spidey senses are telling you it doesn't feel like the truth?  Do you feel suspicious?  I call that your spidey senses which also known as your intuition.  When your gut is telling you that this person is doing something wrong, and nine and a half times. ..I mean I meant to say 99.999 percent of when you think someone's not being honest, YOU ARE RIGHT.  That is your intuition talking to you and you need to honor that because your intuition is a God given gift.  I know for some of you change is really difficult, but if someone isn't bringing positive, peace, love and light into the relationship you have with them, then we need to let them go.  It's kind of like the analogy that I use of when your the boss of your own company.  If an employees isn't adding to the production, positivity, and the growth of the company you need to consider putting them on a 30-day probation period or give them a two week notice.  After that two weeks you let them go and if you do a 30-day probation then you do an assessment and evaluate if they're doing their job and adding to the positivity of the business you keep them.  If they causing conflict or negativity?  Then we make that change and let them go.  
I mean that's something that a lot of us need to do in our personal lives, but we don't because we get comfortable we have a little reasons of why we don't make change but sometimes change is good.
Especially when our Psychic kid/s share and are completely honest, especially if they are under 16 years old. Their filter is not there. So please listen to them. Trust them. They have your best intention and love is unconditional. They are a blessing to us.

Letting go is hard and once we decide a change is in order or once we accept there is a problem ..then change.  And sometimes it takes years to shift or change or to accomplish once we do succeed we feel at peace.  

I'm a Spiritual Healer, Medium, Communication Studies & Life Coach with some amazing Angels & Guides.  I always say ask your Angels to guide you, and say show me the way, and protect me, really helps.   And ceremonies are always needed to set it all free.

Let go. 

Change is good.  Harmony and family are very important for our souls to sing.

I'm sending love and light, 
Peej

I am a very feeling person. So "feeling" that I suffer from Fibromyalgia. For me it's a balancing act. Making sure I disconnect, rest, balance things out and have "Me Time" is all very important factors in my mind, body, life and soul. Especially because I am a healer that doesn't use any cards or tools when I am in session. I use my body to read and feel people's energy.  I feel energy and I feel Spirit touch me, a Loved One that has passed away, or left this physical world. 
There is a such thing as life after death. Trust me they communicate with me daily.  So when a family member wants to connect with a loved one who has passed.  They come to a Medium, like me, to communicate.  For me it's like picking up a phone and dialing up a Spirit.  I can feel their emotions, hear their voice and feel them in my body or touch my body. I am Psychic, I am a medium I do have a Communication degree and certificate, I have facilitated parenting classes but I am a spiritual healer. I am a healer. I move energy and heal your body, mind and soul. This is my God given gift. And I thank God, my Angels and the universe for these gifts daily. 
They talk a lot about Spiritual gifts in the Bible. One verse is in 1 Corinthians 12 <- - click 
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I am so feeling that I can also feel a living person's energy, vibrations and emotions.  
A feeling person, also referred to as an Empath, is one my senses and can be considered a gift or a curse. My friend Scooter always says, "Peej you have super powers- now remember he says, you can't get something for nothing." Meaning there's always a pro and a con. There is always a payoff he says. Which I relate to the fact that I have Fibromyalgia. 
And it's true. Feeling is a gift, but looking back on my life now, it could also be looked at as a curse! LOL
Its actually a gift that makes me the amazing healer and reader that I am. I mean when I'm in a session with someone I can feel if they have kidney pain or I can feel a loved one that has passed giving me a feeling that I have to decode, or they touch me, when I'm connected to their energy. I can hear them speaking or they will touch my hair, head or arm, sometimes it's their way of confirming what I'm saying is correct. I always say, "It's pretty amazing while I'm in the office- but not so amazing when a I'm at the mall." 
Because I feel everyone's crap and I hear feel and see spirit and feel energy. That's how I read people, by their energy and aura. But when I'm at the mall it's a bit overwhelming for me. I get over simulated and then feel wiped out or fatigued. That's my fibromyalgia too!

This is where meditation or what I call "Me Time" comes in handy. It allows me to quiet my mind, clear the energy, and the thoughts, take a mental and physical break and just let it all go, even if it's just for a few minutes of my day. It's just disconnecting for a few minutes here and there. I sometimes say, it's like putting gas in your car. If you're on a road trip and you've driven through two states on a tank of gas, trust me, if you don't stop that car and put more gas in it, it will force you to stop by actually running out of gas or possibly over heating. The same way as your body does when it speaks to you, it's telling you I'm tired, stop, I'm overwelmed and then if you ignore it and keep going and going, to work, to this, and to that. ..and then it says, "I'm done, I'm shutting down, "I'm sick now!" And it forces you to stop. 
Okay back to the car... You already drove 900 miles and the gas gauge says empty.  You have to stop the car, turn it off and put gas into its tank, which is also taking a break, which could be considered a break, or stop time, or meditation time, which is also known as "Me time!" LOL

Over the years on my spiritual journey I've learned a few things here and there from classes, Silvia Brown, Sonia Choquette, self help books, and many more and really just experiencing things and experimenting myself. I have discovered a few things that work and help me disconnect, which then allows me to be in alignment with my higherself, Spirit and my soul. It allows me to disconnect, clear and be in that quiet space of peace, even if it's a few minutes. Sometimes it feels like I have to force myself, but after I do, I feel spiritually refreshed and feel a sense of a clearer thinking, and just a peace calm feeling body. After I mediate I feel stronger and better. This only takes a few minutes out of your day. And if you do a few minutes here and there throughout your day, it's awesome for your soul.

Here area few things that work for me:
You can take a bath with a candle burning and just watch the candle's flame flicker and just feel the warm water on your body and how wonderful it feels. Not thinking how wonderful- feeling how wonderful. We want to give the brain a rest and not think about anything. And trust me- thoughts will come in and I just put my hand up and imagine I'm pushing them aside and sometimes I have to say, "I hear you, but right now I'm taking some "Me Time" and you can come back later, after my "Me Time."

We all have God given gifts or senses. When we're taking some me time we want to put the knowing or thinking senses aside and we want to relax and feel, which requires your eyes to be closed, so that when we see, which also requires one side of your brain to take a break, so don't see and analyze- you look at something and admire. You look and feel. No solving or thinking or brain work allowed when looking. Turn off that curiosity and just be free from it all. Just admire, which is feeling and enjoy what you see. 
It's almost like day dreaming, which is also a great "Me Time" exercise. When you sit there alone and quietly and allow yourself to let go of ego and any learned expectations and just day dream, you allow your mind to go on a journey and venture off into a fairyland. It's an amazing gift and tool to be able to venture off into our safe place. This allows us to disconnect from reality and from analyzing things and let's us dream while we are awake, allowing all of those fantasizing thoughts to come in, venturing off into a great space and allowing wonderful thoughts to enter. It's such an amazing feeling, once you've returned from an adventurous fantasy and you feel happy and spiritually charged and hopeful. If you can imagine it, then it's possible, not just in our head, when we day dream, but in our real life's journey, which allows hope and openness to the possibilities. Sometimes when I allow my expectations or learned ways to be pushed aside and just let myself go, I will see things unfold and I get answers. Not everyone can daydream. This is what I consider a God given "gift" and to some it can be very frustrating.  So if you try it once and it doesn't just come naturally then you can't do it- try the other things I will share. Please don't try and try and get frustrated and then retreat into your head and feel irritated or frustrated. Just let it go and find something that is easy and makes you feel good, relaxed and revived.

Going to the beach and sitting alone on the sand and watching the beautiful waves for a few minutes, then closing your eyes and just listening to the waves for a few minutes, then opening your eyes and watching- well you get the idea. While doing this you want to focus on your breathing- in and out slowly, not thinking about if you're breathing too slow or too fast, remember we are feeling not thinking, just feel the breathe in and feel the calmness set in, while setting the intention that this is "Me Time" and for the next few minutes you're turning off your thoughts. Disconnecting from that analyzing side of the brain. You're goal is to disconnect for a few minutes and just enjoy the beauty of the ocean and Mother Earth. You could sneak in talking to your Angels, or allow a few minutes of prayer at the beginning, but to be honest I need you to set an intention with yourself and your Spirit Guides that this is "quiet time" because let me tell you one of my Guides is a chatty Cathy. So you should say out loud or in your mind's eye, this is me time and we're NOT open for business and we're going to push those thoughts aside, and for the next however many minutes you choose I'm going to be mostly focusing on disconnecting and feeling, then you can talk after I'm done, and then I will listen and be open to thinking again.  But until then, I'm on a break. (And remember to thank them for respecting your wishes after.)
Then just relax, focus on your breath and admire the amazing waves crashing and the peace and comfort you feel from the sounds of the ocean.

Another thing that works wonderfully for me is walking at night. Not waking during the day, but walking under the stars. It does something to me, my mind, body, and soul. I'm not sure if it's just the stillness of the night, the stars or the moon, but it does something to my soul.  Plus it's like hitting two birds with one stone. Haha that's sure an old school phrase, I mean where did that phrase come from?  lol 
I say it all of the time and I've never hit a bird! Who hits birds anyway?! lol

Okay Peej- back on track here! Walking at night is amazing! You get a break in the stillness of the night and disconnect from the energy of everything at your home, and then you get some exercising in too after dinner. 
A win win!

Another thing I've noticed is laying or sitting there playing Candy Crush or any video game where your looking at the game and trying to solve or figure something out that you're seeing on a screen.  It takes your mind away from reality for a while.  You're not thinking about work or your relationship issues while you're on level 67 on Candy Crush and you're trying to get to the next level for the last 25 minutes haha it's impossible! Because your mind is in a space where is connected to that game, trying to plan the next move, thoughts of life are pushed aside because you're using strategy to complete that level and move on to the next. Never thought you'd hear that come out of my mouth huh?! LOL

Another thing that really helps me is getting a foot massage or full body massage. I love love love massage. I lay there, they soak my feet and then massage me.  Sometimes when I'm laying there I want to think or listen to my Spirit Guides talk while laying there and I just say, "I'm taking some "Me Time" right now, come back later."  And I just lay there and feel how amazing it feels to feel the warm hands massaging me and I feel how relaxed I am and how I feel in that moment.

Something I tell clients to read a book. Not a self help book, because that allows you to think about yourself and you do a lot of reflective thinking. It has to be a love story or a thriller or mystery so that when you're reading it you're actually in your head, as if you're watching a movie in your mind.  I'm not much of a reader so I can't relate, but this is something my Guides bring forward all of the time.  For me to read a book I have to be on an elliptical or treadmill to read.  I know- Crazy huh?!  But very true LOL

Guided meditation is also great for those of us that are always in our heads. When you listen to a guided meditation your eyes are closed and your hearing someone taking you through a journey and your relaxed and heart is open to this amazing journey that someone is guiding you through.  A lot of healing comes from guided meditation.  It works with your subconscious mind.  I love guided meditations. I have several on YouTube under "Medium Peej".

Another good "Me Time" exercise is listening to music, the kind where you are singing the lyrics. When you listen to your favorite music it feels good, it does something to your soul, plus how can you think about your stressful work issues when you're singing the words to an amazing song?  Now wait a minute. .. I'm not talking about listening to county music or some Marvin Gay, which usually are love story based songs, especially if you're having relationship issues!  That would just activate energy and the whole point is to disconnect.  Make sense? Just music that you like and that you can sing the words to. I mean feel good music. La♪la la♪♫ la la🎶 
And dance to it.  Move your body.  Get that energy flowing and shake it! 


These exercises allow us to disconnect mentally from our life, body, and thoughts, and allows us to be open to peace and stillness. The results are amazing. I always come back recharged, refreshed and stronger!

Like Cora says in my favorite movie "Madea goes to Jail, Madea calls her daughter and asks where she is because she isn't supposed to drive and she needed a ride. Cora says, I'm getting my hair done, I'm having some "Me Time" let's just say Madea was not happy about her taking time for herself and she let her know. I love that movie. It does something to "MY" soul lol
We all think about and WANT "Me Time" , but life, work, our children, friends or just life get in the way.  Life and people are always going to want our time until we decide our body and soul NEEDS "Me Time", it will go to the bottom of our list of importance and not be a priority. And things I notice when I don't make time for me is I start getting snippy, or fatigued or exhausted feeling.  I feel like I'm on a treadmill or hamster wheel and I exert a lot of energy but get know where or get very little done.

Make time and make it priority- trust me, you will notice a huge difference in life. I know it brings me peace!

Thank youfor reading and I am sending you love and light. 
Peej

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