This was originally composed on Jan 12, 2014

What is a booking fee? And why?  

A booking fee is a charge for doing an in-office session.  It's cheaper to do a Skype or phone session because you don't pay a booking fee.  And I don't have to pay for office space because I'm working from the comfort of my home while you are in the comfort of yours.  I always say if money is an issue then book a Skype or phone session.  Your session results will be as accurate and clear as an in person session.  I always joke around and say the only difference is you don't get a real hug, you get an electronic hug. LOL  :)

A little history of why I require a booking fee when scheduling an office session with me?

I've been meeting with clients for a very long time and never had an issue but one Saturday morning long ago...I decided to start charging a booking fee because this lady booked an office session with me on a Saturday morning at 9 a.m. and didn't show up.  I didn't get a call or email to cancel.  She didn't answer her cell phone the three times I attempted to call as I waited on her arrival.  I sat there wondering if she was okay or just decided to sleep in on her Saturday morning like I could have been doing!
It was a very disappointing and frustrating day for me that Saturday morning many months ago.  I mean at that time I was trying to do 2 businesses and I'm a single only parent with health problems with challenges daily.  I work very hard, my child has sports five days a week, sometimes six so for me to crawl out of bed at 730 in the morning on a Saturday morning to take a shower and get myself into the office by nine, I know now is and was asking a lot from my tired disabled self.  Then for her to not even have the common courtesy to call or email or even answer her phone when I called her was just blatantly rude!  As I sat in my office, eyes closed, talking to Spirit asking why... I heard my Angels chime in and say, things happen for a reason...
And that's when the messsage came to me to require a small booking fee to schedule an office session. 
In the.. I don't know, maybe year that I've now been doing this I've had two people schedule a session and no-show.  I know it makes a big difference now when someone doesn't show to their appointment at least I get paid something for the trip into the office.  It's also a little compensation for the fact that another person could have scheduled a session during that time slot, so at least it accommodates my time slightly.

So today I have somebody booked at 2:15 that scheduled her second session with me a couple weeks ago and I called her 3 days ago to confirm because my spidey senses said call her plus I didn't collect a booking fee.  I left her a message but I never heard back from her, and to be honest with all the dealings with my grandmother's funeral yesterday and the viewing the day before and all the preparations and family drama going on around me it never occurred to me that I didn't hear back from her. I do remember her she was a very very nice lady with relationship issues with a motorcycle gang boyfriend. 
So this morning when I realized I never heard back from her I attempted to try to call her again and again left a message, because I have two other people that are trying to get in today and I don't have the time available.  If she isn't coming in I could give that time slot to someone else.
She didn't answer.  I still went to my office because you never know maybe her phone was lost, broken or. .. AND....the result....she didn't show and to this day (March 26, 2014) I have not heard from her.
Given her situation it makes me wonder if she's okay or not?!

These are a few reasons why I charge a booking fee.  And I notice that people are more responsible when they have a few bucks on the line.  If they're not going to show up then they make sure they cancel or reschedule which allows me to give that time slot to somebody else.  After all I am running a business here. ;)

Feb 15, 2014
Did you know that you're psychic? 
Do you consider yourself to be highly intuitive?  Are you sharp?  Do you listen to your gut all of the time, most of the time, some of the time, or hardly ever? Or are you one of those that are really confused right now as to what I am referring to? Well it's that little feeling in your stomach area? Haha!   
If you answered yes to any of those above, then please continue to read and listen, because this information will help you understand and hopefully learn a few things.

We all have intuition.  Even though we do all have it some of us don't know we do.  And the sad part is that most of us doubt it, which then we depend on going outside of ourselves to get the answers we need.   If you do this-this is the day you notice and chose to stop,  because it is a choice.  When we do that we give our power and control to listen to our gut and make the right choices to someone else, outside our body.

I'm here to teach you how to stay in your own body.   I want to share an important sense that we all have, which is really a naturally born gift to all.  I can explain it very simply. .. Most of us are born with the sense of smell, but some of us were not born with the gift of sight or seeing, or even hearing, but ALL of us are born with the sense of knowing and that gut feeling that speaks to us and sends a signal of does this feel right (or not).  I don't care if you're blind deaf or stupid we all have that sense of knowing.  This is your intuition and that 6th sense that everybody tasks about, that inner knowing.  It's that little voice in your head that speaks to you. But do you trust it?  Do you listen to it?

When we take time to calm our minds and pull back from the chatter in our minds we allow ourselves to disconnect. 

Meditation is one way to learn how to do this and is the best way to practice this muscle and sense.   Meditation helps to calm that mind chatter allowing yourself to think and listen from a more calmer and clearer space.  The more you practice the better you get.   That's when I would refer to it as a gift, because the more time you spend time learning and practicing something- the better you get! 

With your intuition it's really simple- take the time, let go, breathe, relax, pay attention, acknowledge, trust and feel yourself strongly rooted into Mother Earth.

I meditate often but I know how to drop down into the vibration because I'm a Medium so I hear see and feel Spirit and loved ones that have crossed over.  I love wihat I do!  My heart's desire it to help.  All Mediums are Intuitives (Psychic), but not all Psychics are Mediums.  Mediums are natural born to sense what Spirit says, and that is a gift, but intuition everyone has and is what I'm going to refer to as a natural born gift, that we all have. 

My heart's desire is to teach people how to listen to their own intuition and to know that we are all intuitive which translates to we are all psychic.  And psychic is just another word for intuition, to be quite honest with you.   It's my heart's desire to teach people the signs or signals to teach them to notice to pay attention to, acknowledge, and learn to listen and use your God given gift.  Your intuition will guide, protect you by sending you a subtle signal or feeling.  It's about h halfa second long.  The more you listen to your body and learn the easier it gets and the more confident you become.  Remember that old saying "Practice makes perfect"?   If you listen to that gut feeling and base your decisions on that little voice that you hear in your head or that hit you get in the gut then you will make better choices in life.

Remember- don't go outside of your body,  because you can't base your choices or decisions on what your friends thinks or from what your family members expects you to do.  Family values, guilt and society will teach and influence you to do what is expected and then your guilty conscience will also influence your intuition, but you have to honor your God given gift. 
I want you to base your choices in life and the decisions you make by going inside yourself and listening to what your inner voice says.   This is what I refer to as your higher self or your higher source.  This is your connection to Spirit and honoring that part of your soul, your gut and intuition. 

This is my heart's desire and a Spiritual Healer and Guide to teach you how to listen which allows you to be more in alignment with yourself.  I provide a new path and the tools to be connected to your higher self, Higher Source, Spirit, God or your gut and intuition.  This allows you to live your life knowing thats the choices you make come from your soul, your heart's desire- this is what I live for!

"Meditation is the key to intuition"  -Peej

Did you know that your kid/s are Psychic?  Yes they are!  They have very good senses for what is good or bad feeling and their filters aren't there yet.  So they will blurt out what they feel, which I think is pretty funny sometimes!  
They are especially tuned into what is not so good for the people they care most about- YOU their parent and they WILL tell you how they feel.  
If you are in a relationship and your Psychic kid/s don't like your partner, you should listen to them, because there's a reason why their spidey senses are telling them something negative.
Kids are very intuitive, which is another word for Psychic.  They are completely clear and they most likely have a reason why they don't like that person so if you're in a relationship and you don't know if it's the perfect one or if he or she is the right one or the one that you should be in and your intuition is getting mixed up and conflicts with your emotions.  
A good way to get direction is consider how your friends or Psychic kids feel about that person you're in relationship with.  (Which also means friendship relationship)  Because if they don't like the person you're involved in a relationship with, then maybe you need to start listening to your gut feeling because if they're reading that that person is not good for you nine and a half times out of 10 you know that person is not good for you.  That does NOT mean that they aren't a good person, it just means that they are not a good person for you.  There's a reason why you're holding on to that person and I don't know what the reason is, but sometimes we don't know what the reason is. Maybe it's that you aren't good with change.
Maybe this is a personal issue you need to look at.  Why doesn't my Psychic kid like this person that I'm in a relationship.  You can look at yourself in the mirror and say why am I in this relationship?  What is this person doing for me?  What does this person bring into my life? Are they adding to the quality of my life or subtracting from it?  Are they teaching me to listen to my own intuition? and an example of that would be.. are they teaching me to know when someone's lying are they saying that they're faithful and I know that they're not.  Are they saying that they are at a friends house and your spidey senses are telling you it doesn't feel like the truth?  Do you feel suspicious?  I call that your spidey senses which also known as your intuition.  When your gut is telling you that this person is doing something wrong, and nine and a half times. ..I mean I meant to say 99.999 percent of when you think someone's not being honest, YOU ARE RIGHT.  That is your intuition talking to you and you need to honor that because your intuition is a God given gift.  I know for some of you change is really difficult, but if someone isn't bringing positive, peace, love and light into the relationship you have with them, then we need to let them go.  It's kind of like the analogy that I use of when your the boss of your own company.  If an employees isn't adding to the production, positivity, and the growth of the company you need to consider putting them on a 30-day probation period or give them a two week notice.  After that two weeks you let them go and if you do a 30-day probation then you do an assessment and evaluate if they're doing their job and adding to the positivity of the business you keep them.  If they causing conflict or negativity?  Then we make that change and let them go.  
I mean that's something that a lot of us need to do in our personal lives, but we don't because we get comfortable we have a little reasons of why we don't make change but sometimes change is good.
Especially when our Psychic kid/s share and are completely honest, especially if they are under 16 years old. Their filter is not there. So please listen to them. Trust them. They have your best intention and love is unconditional. They are a blessing to us.

Letting go is hard and once we decide a change is in order or once we accept there is a problem ..then change.  And sometimes it takes years to shift or change or to accomplish once we do succeed we feel at peace.  

I'm a Spiritual Healer, Medium, Communication Studies & Life Coach with some amazing Angels & Guides.  I always say ask your Angels to guide you, and say show me the way, and protect me, really helps.   And ceremonies are always needed to set it all free.

Let go. 

Change is good.  Harmony and family are very important for our souls to sing.

I'm sending love and light, 
Peej

I am a very feeling person. So "feeling" that I suffer from Fibromyalgia. For me it's a balancing act. Making sure I disconnect, rest, balance things out and have "Me Time" is all very important factors in my mind, body, life and soul. Especially because I am a healer that doesn't use any cards or tools when I am in session. I use my body to read and feel people's energy.  I feel energy and I feel Spirit touch me, a Loved One that has passed away, or left this physical world. 
There is a such thing as life after death. Trust me they communicate with me daily.  So when a family member wants to connect with a loved one who has passed.  They come to a Medium, like me, to communicate.  For me it's like picking up a phone and dialing up a Spirit.  I can feel their emotions, hear their voice and feel them in my body or touch my body. I am Psychic, I am a medium I do have a Communication degree and certificate, I have facilitated parenting classes but I am a spiritual healer. I am a healer. I move energy and heal your body, mind and soul. This is my God given gift. And I thank God, my Angels and the universe for these gifts daily. 
They talk a lot about Spiritual gifts in the Bible. One verse is in 1 Corinthians 12 <- - click 
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I am so feeling that I can also feel a living person's energy, vibrations and emotions.  
A feeling person, also referred to as an Empath, is one my senses and can be considered a gift or a curse. My friend Scooter always says, "Peej you have super powers- now remember he says, you can't get something for nothing." Meaning there's always a pro and a con. There is always a payoff he says. Which I relate to the fact that I have Fibromyalgia. 
And it's true. Feeling is a gift, but looking back on my life now, it could also be looked at as a curse! LOL
Its actually a gift that makes me the amazing healer and reader that I am. I mean when I'm in a session with someone I can feel if they have kidney pain or I can feel a loved one that has passed giving me a feeling that I have to decode, or they touch me, when I'm connected to their energy. I can hear them speaking or they will touch my hair, head or arm, sometimes it's their way of confirming what I'm saying is correct. I always say, "It's pretty amazing while I'm in the office- but not so amazing when a I'm at the mall." 
Because I feel everyone's crap and I hear feel and see spirit and feel energy. That's how I read people, by their energy and aura. But when I'm at the mall it's a bit overwhelming for me. I get over simulated and then feel wiped out or fatigued. That's my fibromyalgia too!

This is where meditation or what I call "Me Time" comes in handy. It allows me to quiet my mind, clear the energy, and the thoughts, take a mental and physical break and just let it all go, even if it's just for a few minutes of my day. It's just disconnecting for a few minutes here and there. I sometimes say, it's like putting gas in your car. If you're on a road trip and you've driven through two states on a tank of gas, trust me, if you don't stop that car and put more gas in it, it will force you to stop by actually running out of gas or possibly over heating. The same way as your body does when it speaks to you, it's telling you I'm tired, stop, I'm overwelmed and then if you ignore it and keep going and going, to work, to this, and to that. ..and then it says, "I'm done, I'm shutting down, "I'm sick now!" And it forces you to stop. 
Okay back to the car... You already drove 900 miles and the gas gauge says empty.  You have to stop the car, turn it off and put gas into its tank, which is also taking a break, which could be considered a break, or stop time, or meditation time, which is also known as "Me time!" LOL

Over the years on my spiritual journey I've learned a few things here and there from classes, Silvia Brown, Sonia Choquette, self help books, and many more and really just experiencing things and experimenting myself. I have discovered a few things that work and help me disconnect, which then allows me to be in alignment with my higherself, Spirit and my soul. It allows me to disconnect, clear and be in that quiet space of peace, even if it's a few minutes. Sometimes it feels like I have to force myself, but after I do, I feel spiritually refreshed and feel a sense of a clearer thinking, and just a peace calm feeling body. After I mediate I feel stronger and better. This only takes a few minutes out of your day. And if you do a few minutes here and there throughout your day, it's awesome for your soul.

Here area few things that work for me:
You can take a bath with a candle burning and just watch the candle's flame flicker and just feel the warm water on your body and how wonderful it feels. Not thinking how wonderful- feeling how wonderful. We want to give the brain a rest and not think about anything. And trust me- thoughts will come in and I just put my hand up and imagine I'm pushing them aside and sometimes I have to say, "I hear you, but right now I'm taking some "Me Time" and you can come back later, after my "Me Time."

We all have God given gifts or senses. When we're taking some me time we want to put the knowing or thinking senses aside and we want to relax and feel, which requires your eyes to be closed, so that when we see, which also requires one side of your brain to take a break, so don't see and analyze- you look at something and admire. You look and feel. No solving or thinking or brain work allowed when looking. Turn off that curiosity and just be free from it all. Just admire, which is feeling and enjoy what you see. 
It's almost like day dreaming, which is also a great "Me Time" exercise. When you sit there alone and quietly and allow yourself to let go of ego and any learned expectations and just day dream, you allow your mind to go on a journey and venture off into a fairyland. It's an amazing gift and tool to be able to venture off into our safe place. This allows us to disconnect from reality and from analyzing things and let's us dream while we are awake, allowing all of those fantasizing thoughts to come in, venturing off into a great space and allowing wonderful thoughts to enter. It's such an amazing feeling, once you've returned from an adventurous fantasy and you feel happy and spiritually charged and hopeful. If you can imagine it, then it's possible, not just in our head, when we day dream, but in our real life's journey, which allows hope and openness to the possibilities. Sometimes when I allow my expectations or learned ways to be pushed aside and just let myself go, I will see things unfold and I get answers. Not everyone can daydream. This is what I consider a God given "gift" and to some it can be very frustrating.  So if you try it once and it doesn't just come naturally then you can't do it- try the other things I will share. Please don't try and try and get frustrated and then retreat into your head and feel irritated or frustrated. Just let it go and find something that is easy and makes you feel good, relaxed and revived.

Going to the beach and sitting alone on the sand and watching the beautiful waves for a few minutes, then closing your eyes and just listening to the waves for a few minutes, then opening your eyes and watching- well you get the idea. While doing this you want to focus on your breathing- in and out slowly, not thinking about if you're breathing too slow or too fast, remember we are feeling not thinking, just feel the breathe in and feel the calmness set in, while setting the intention that this is "Me Time" and for the next few minutes you're turning off your thoughts. Disconnecting from that analyzing side of the brain. You're goal is to disconnect for a few minutes and just enjoy the beauty of the ocean and Mother Earth. You could sneak in talking to your Angels, or allow a few minutes of prayer at the beginning, but to be honest I need you to set an intention with yourself and your Spirit Guides that this is "quiet time" because let me tell you one of my Guides is a chatty Cathy. So you should say out loud or in your mind's eye, this is me time and we're NOT open for business and we're going to push those thoughts aside, and for the next however many minutes you choose I'm going to be mostly focusing on disconnecting and feeling, then you can talk after I'm done, and then I will listen and be open to thinking again.  But until then, I'm on a break. (And remember to thank them for respecting your wishes after.)
Then just relax, focus on your breath and admire the amazing waves crashing and the peace and comfort you feel from the sounds of the ocean.

Another thing that works wonderfully for me is walking at night. Not waking during the day, but walking under the stars. It does something to me, my mind, body, and soul. I'm not sure if it's just the stillness of the night, the stars or the moon, but it does something to my soul.  Plus it's like hitting two birds with one stone. Haha that's sure an old school phrase, I mean where did that phrase come from?  lol 
I say it all of the time and I've never hit a bird! Who hits birds anyway?! lol

Okay Peej- back on track here! Walking at night is amazing! You get a break in the stillness of the night and disconnect from the energy of everything at your home, and then you get some exercising in too after dinner. 
A win win!

Another thing I've noticed is laying or sitting there playing Candy Crush or any video game where your looking at the game and trying to solve or figure something out that you're seeing on a screen.  It takes your mind away from reality for a while.  You're not thinking about work or your relationship issues while you're on level 67 on Candy Crush and you're trying to get to the next level for the last 25 minutes haha it's impossible! Because your mind is in a space where is connected to that game, trying to plan the next move, thoughts of life are pushed aside because you're using strategy to complete that level and move on to the next. Never thought you'd hear that come out of my mouth huh?! LOL

Another thing that really helps me is getting a foot massage or full body massage. I love love love massage. I lay there, they soak my feet and then massage me.  Sometimes when I'm laying there I want to think or listen to my Spirit Guides talk while laying there and I just say, "I'm taking some "Me Time" right now, come back later."  And I just lay there and feel how amazing it feels to feel the warm hands massaging me and I feel how relaxed I am and how I feel in that moment.

Something I tell clients to read a book. Not a self help book, because that allows you to think about yourself and you do a lot of reflective thinking. It has to be a love story or a thriller or mystery so that when you're reading it you're actually in your head, as if you're watching a movie in your mind.  I'm not much of a reader so I can't relate, but this is something my Guides bring forward all of the time.  For me to read a book I have to be on an elliptical or treadmill to read.  I know- Crazy huh?!  But very true LOL

Guided meditation is also great for those of us that are always in our heads. When you listen to a guided meditation your eyes are closed and your hearing someone taking you through a journey and your relaxed and heart is open to this amazing journey that someone is guiding you through.  A lot of healing comes from guided meditation.  It works with your subconscious mind.  I love guided meditations. I have several on YouTube under "Medium Peej".

Another good "Me Time" exercise is listening to music, the kind where you are singing the lyrics. When you listen to your favorite music it feels good, it does something to your soul, plus how can you think about your stressful work issues when you're singing the words to an amazing song?  Now wait a minute. .. I'm not talking about listening to county music or some Marvin Gay, which usually are love story based songs, especially if you're having relationship issues!  That would just activate energy and the whole point is to disconnect.  Make sense? Just music that you like and that you can sing the words to. I mean feel good music. La♪la la♪♫ la la🎶 
And dance to it.  Move your body.  Get that energy flowing and shake it! 


These exercises allow us to disconnect mentally from our life, body, and thoughts, and allows us to be open to peace and stillness. The results are amazing. I always come back recharged, refreshed and stronger!

Like Cora says in my favorite movie "Madea goes to Jail, Madea calls her daughter and asks where she is because she isn't supposed to drive and she needed a ride. Cora says, I'm getting my hair done, I'm having some "Me Time" let's just say Madea was not happy about her taking time for herself and she let her know. I love that movie. It does something to "MY" soul lol
We all think about and WANT "Me Time" , but life, work, our children, friends or just life get in the way.  Life and people are always going to want our time until we decide our body and soul NEEDS "Me Time", it will go to the bottom of our list of importance and not be a priority. And things I notice when I don't make time for me is I start getting snippy, or fatigued or exhausted feeling.  I feel like I'm on a treadmill or hamster wheel and I exert a lot of energy but get know where or get very little done.

Make time and make it priority- trust me, you will notice a huge difference in life. I know it brings me peace!

Thank youfor reading and I am sending you love and light. 
Peej

Thank you everyone for all of the wonderful reviews on Yelp!!!  (Even if Yelp has filtered half of them :(   that's a whole "other" blog for another day hahah!!

I feel very blessed to be a Spiritual Healer and enjoy what gifts God has blessed me, my body & soul with, and the ability of being able to help, guide & inspire, and meet so many wonderful and amazing people!  I work with Spirit, which means I hear, feel and see Spirit.  I don't use cards or ask any questions- like what is your birthday or what questions do you have today!  I say,"Sit down, shut up, and put your seat bealt on!"  with a smile and chuckle of course! LOL  and then I channel the messages I hear, feel and see!  Nine times out of ten you won't have questions when I'm done with you! ha
 
Reading reviews to me, is great to hear, and to see how I helped and how they felt and feel, but I love reviews because they really help explain to everyone (that don't know me-) how I read and that I am the "real deal" and not a gypsy fake!! LOL!  So thank you again it really really helps! 

Here are some quotes that touched my heart

This is a blog I actually wrote about two years ago- before I even had a blog.  I hve shared it with two or three people but I thought i'd post it here. 
(and without reading it again and editing it..hhhaha)

Life lessons:
We all have lessons to learn. The things that are so difficult for us are only lessons we have chosen for ourselves. If things are easy for us, then they are not lessons but are things we already know."  -Louise Hay
 
I believe prior to entering this lifetime we have a contract of life lessons mapped out for us. I believe good and bad all have a rhyme or reason.
I have this vision of us, our soul, Mother Mary, the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and several angels sitting at a table as if it were a typical friday
morning meeting at the work place. And the "plan" which will eventually become your life, once it has been mutually agreed upon, will eventually be "you" a living, loving, laughing being.
Then there is the anticipation of waiting for your number to be called.  And "bingo!" *poof* you are sliding down the canal, through the clouds, into the light, into a body, a new world, with some old, but definitely new lessons to experience, grow, and learn from.  A set of maybe, unexpected talents and gifts.  A whole new world. A whole new fresh start, a new life path.

A life full of surprises and just the unknown gives me scary and exciting feelings all at once !
New life lessons.
Makes me think of a time before when i just could not understand why a situation was so difficult and I couldn't imagine how I was going to get through this" a popular thought I have recited a few times "why me God?" Also comes to mind. ..  But now I look back and realize I actually got through it all. I succeeded!  Even after all the thoughts and anxiety of how difficult it seemed at the time. Replaying it in my mind over and over. Like a broken record.  Most times you can look back, knowing in your heart and seeing that you grew from it. You may even look back and say, "that wasn't as bad as I thought it was at the time!"
And then there are those stubborn life lessons we still haven't mastered. I believe we will get to them, and if not they will be brought to the table (the meeting, next life time) if we don't learn from them.
Life lessons are sort of a bitter but  sweet fruit.
We all have been there, whether it be taking on a new position at work, learning something new, breaking off an unhealthy relationship or learning something new.
At first, it feels difficult because it is a shift from the norm, or maybe because it is an unexpected change.  Most times these things promote growth.
You have to have faith and know things are in line with the universe. The way they were meant to be. We may not understand the reason at the time, but they are all happening for a reason. Know it is divine timing.
A simple way of looking at it is by remembering back, as a little itsy bitsy...crawling around.  What if you chose not to take a chance and attempt to take a step to walk? Resisting because what your doing is working, and out of fear you chose not to take a chance, you won't attempt to stand or take a step. And maybe because you saw another fall and get hurt and even cry.  You may even have tried it and fell and hurt yourself. So out of fear, you avoid. why change things? "I mean, you can crawl over there to get the toy, so your fine,  right? Where do you think you would be now if you never took the chance to change and those first steps and fall a few times?
Change could seem difficult, but know this...
 once you make a choice, because it is a choice or decide to take on life's lessons with acceptance, love and light then you will truly understand that "The key to happiness is accepting what is"  
Which is a qoute my fvorite professor in college, Randy Fujishin once shared with me, and it has stuck to my mind, body, and soul... so I now I put it on my business cards.


Sending love & light,
Peej

I have several blogs that I have wrote, but I never post them.  One reason is that I am a horrible speller, but I am an honor student, so I write it, then I have to edit it, sleep on it, then edit it again...then I get busy and forget I ever had a blog to post.. plus it doesn't help that I hate being in front of this computer. 
 
My Angels have been giving me little reminders here and there though to post.
A few days ago a lady called wanting to schedule a session with me. While talking she said that she really enjoyed reading my blogs.  I thought that was really nice of her to say that, as I heard that litttle voice say, "You need to post the five or six blogs you have on your blackberry."
Then again- today I decided to go onto NoseyBook AKA FaceBook and I saw a post from a friend (Donald) talking about deleting people off of his page that basically vent their dirty laundry or have a bunch of negative bla bla crap to post... AND AGAIN...I heard...."See Peej you need to share your blog about this...
Another hint to post my blogs.  It was almost like what Donald said on his facebook status mirrored exactly what I was saying in my blog... so here it is..

"I'm not much of a facebooker, because I don't have a whole lot of free time, but I do go on here and there. Sometimes just to see how my friends are, to read some amazing quotes that people post, or just because I'm sitting some place waiting and I decide to hop on for a minute or two.
I refer to facebook as nosey book. One of the reasons I don't go on facebook that often is because I feel like its almost like turning on the 10 o'clock news.  Sometimes it's disturbing what some people post!  I don't watch the news because its a lot of negativity but mostly because I am an empath and when I see or hear things I feel that person's pain in my body.  That's why I stay away from malls, and news etc.  Plus- what I notice is some people use facebook to vent their dirty laundry hahaha or should I say personal drama and they also say or post things/picture of things that they normally would not say in their "real person" voice to a "real" person's face.  Passive aggressive behavior (tI witnessed wo people doing this) and it's just annoying!  The whole "f-U... Bla bla bla" like they're posting a shout out to their enemy! Its sometimes annoying, but then we have to send them good energy or pray for them.  I feel sorry for them, because they want to vent and in my opinion that's what a close friend, sister, or mother is for... to tell them what's happening in your life...(Again- just in my opinion.) And then of course we have those friends that pretend they care and use you and what you have to offer when it benefits them and then they get a boyfriend and POOF they disappear..  It somehow becomes sort of self tunnel vision of me, me and my life.  It becomes a drain because they forgot how to care or give back to the people they care about, or cared about them when it was convenient for them!  Stay away from those Sneaky lil devils! Haha now I'm venting seeeee.  
But really, those types of friends that I speak of, I hold no negative energy towards.  I wish them nothing but love and happiness.  I am thankful for what they have shown me during our times together,   Now I'm careful what I put out, and to better my focus on whom I choose to be in my close circle of friend and how much time and energy I put into a friendship.  
Anyway- point of the matter- don't post your personal drama on Facebook people!  And we all have drama...let me tell ya- I could post some serious drama daily hahah... 
Anyway- I guess what I'm saying is don't share the crap on Facebook..Tell that person in private what they did to upset you or hurt you.  Maybe they didn't know that they hurt you.  Or call a friend and vent it to them. But really you should communicate with that person that did something that pissed you off or hurt you. Especially if that person was a good friend to you at one time or another. They deserve to know what they did to piss you off, which translates to really hurt you.  If anything out of respect for yourself. (sorry I now feel like I'm preaching hahah but I guess that's what happens when you have a communication degree haha.
Anyway- back the topic on hand... The main reason why I really don't enjoy facebook, is because there is a lot of negativity BUT let's get this straight I do see positives too!  Just not often enough!

Here is something I saw on facebook, that I thought was pretty cool and am so grateful to have read this on "nosey book" so I thought I vent a little and then share. hahaha JK!  But really it has activated a lot of energy and feelings with my soul so thought I'd share....

"One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!"

MORAL :
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - you have to forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - (I'm adding... most times this never happens because so many people don't meditate daily.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.  (I want to add... This means focus on what you have not what you don't!

4. Give more.  (I want to add... I always so I am of love and light.  I am a very generous person and every once in a while I have to stop and say does this person appreciate me and what I have to offer because it tricky "give more" means give to the people that honor and respect what you bring to the plate. And if they don't, don't give more. There has to be a balance. Give, take, give, take. Even a give, take, give, give, take is okay once in a while but there has to be an exchange. I can talk about this for hours because this has been a huge life lesson for me.  Example that comes to mind- I had a friend, well what I called a friend, that I have read a few times, oh don't let me forget the most important part, for FREE, which is normal for me... I've gone and did several free property reads for another friend for FREE too!  What I have noticed in my experience with several of my so-called "friends" is that they get free readings from me and they forget that a reading or any messages from a medium or psychic is a "service" just because they don't have a pair of scissors in there hand doesn't mean they are not providing a service. And the hardest part I have experienced is that they come to expect it, as if its just free advise from their friend.  One day a few years ago, I was with one so called "friend" doing free property reads for her, which don't get me wrong, I could have said, "I want X amount of dollars" but I didn't expect payment, and back to what I was saying... I was doing a property reading for one "friend" and I was supposed to read another "friend" at my house at 1. When I attempted to call the friend to let her know to come at 130 she didn't answer.  So I left a message advising.  Well to my surprise I got a response via text telling me all kinds of crap about if I did this to her, I would be mad bla bla bla. To sum it up- aparently this "friend" forgot that I was providing her a "free" service and again back to what I said earlier, it became about that person and what they were not getting.  When it should have been about what they were getting!  A caring friend that was giving you a free reading!  I swear this has been a repeated lesson for me and has been an eye opener for me.   Now I do not read anyone for free!  You need to give back some how, even if its painting a wall in my house. Give, take, give, take is what I wrote earlier but really its "give, give back, give, give back" so that you both give.  Which is not always the case. And the universe will extract those takers and the funniest part is that the takers sometimes extract themselves from your owesomeness because they are too much inside their narcissistic personality disorder heads, to see what is gong on outside their hollow shell hahah
And not all of them were take, take. Some gave too!  But I think the main problem was they didn't have an open heart or empathy to my side of the situation.   To sympathize is easy, when you have experience that pain of another, but to empathize, that is a gift. Or is a curse hahaha I often say, "its great inside my office- its makes me an amazing reader but sucks in real life, like at the mall or when watching those stupid shows where kids slam into a wall on a skateboard being stupid!
I know another Medium that has a rule, that she does not read friends. Maybe that will be my rule some day?  I think the most important thing I've learned is balance.

5. Expect less from people but more from yourself.  (My take on this, is that this is a tricky one. I think you should not expect anything and then you should expect a lot. Especially if its around respecting one another. I respect you a lot and I expect a lot of respect back hahha!!  This has been a huge life lesson for me.  I expect people to mirror me.  Im of love & light, very giving and caring.  I help you babysit your kids so that you can go on vacation...one (me) naturally expects that in the future when I need a sitter to go on vacation, you (the person I babysat for) would naturally want to return the favor....And I've had to learn the hard way that this just isn't the way it works!



Moral of the bla bla bla is....In life you have two eyes, two ears, two.... two choices...always two different roads to take.... two words to remember when asked too many favors "I can't"... and always two ways of looking at things.... YOU CHOOSE!!!!



Sending love & light,
(and that's a choice too!)
Peej <3

Okay, off to do a group session at a clients' house!  The last time I did a group reading was in 2008. I'm excited! Yaaaay!! 

I would like to start doing group readings again.  Group reading parties are always a fun way to get together and introduce people to Spirit!  If anyone is interested, please contact me!